Confessions of a liar
When is it okay to lie?? Okay I know some may be surprised, but I lie frequently. Let’s say AK asks if Santa will bring her EVERY toy she sees advertise, and I reply, “Maybe.” That is a lie because Santa already has all her toys and that one isn’t there. I think that is okay. When an infant died and I tried to explain what happened, and I finally said, “God just wanted her back.” I’m not sure that is a lie, but I don’t know that it is the truth either.
When else is it okay? Well, when a friend caught my BFF calling her boyfriend and confronted me about it, I told her my BFF was having some problems and needed advice from a guy. I neglected to tell her the guy was cheating on her with my BFF. Nobody would have been better off if I told the truth.
When Jeff writes me from Afghanistan and asks if everything is okay, I tell him yes, even if it is not. He is at war, and I don’t think he needs the stress of life back here when he is in danger. I think that is okay. Maybe I’m wrong for that, but I would rather he worry about his safety than other things.
When people assume things about my life, and I allow them to believe that, is that a lie? I guess so, but I don’t know that I want to change their opinion just yet.
So, surprisingly, lying is not foreign to me, but I don’t necessarily condone it for all situations. When my students ask if their essays are good enough to pass the WPE, I am blatantly honest. They need to know the truth. Lying will not help them at all.
However, having shared how much I lie, many times I will answer a question very honestly, which sometimes offends people. I like that about myself, because I feel like people always know where they stand. So, ask away and I will tell you what I think, even if it hurts!
When else is it okay? Well, when a friend caught my BFF calling her boyfriend and confronted me about it, I told her my BFF was having some problems and needed advice from a guy. I neglected to tell her the guy was cheating on her with my BFF. Nobody would have been better off if I told the truth.
When Jeff writes me from Afghanistan and asks if everything is okay, I tell him yes, even if it is not. He is at war, and I don’t think he needs the stress of life back here when he is in danger. I think that is okay. Maybe I’m wrong for that, but I would rather he worry about his safety than other things.
When people assume things about my life, and I allow them to believe that, is that a lie? I guess so, but I don’t know that I want to change their opinion just yet.
So, surprisingly, lying is not foreign to me, but I don’t necessarily condone it for all situations. When my students ask if their essays are good enough to pass the WPE, I am blatantly honest. They need to know the truth. Lying will not help them at all.
However, having shared how much I lie, many times I will answer a question very honestly, which sometimes offends people. I like that about myself, because I feel like people always know where they stand. So, ask away and I will tell you what I think, even if it hurts!
posted by Mary Poppins at
6:27 PM
2 Comments:
The best part of this topic is having to delve deep within the self.
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Diana Chartier, at 7:19 PM
I think it is interesting what you said about allowing people to assume things about yourself. I haven't necessarily corrected people at times either. Does that mean I have lied, or I have just failed to correct them?
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ktatum, at 9:01 PM
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